the key idea is :
falling object has momentum and energy NOT "force"
we usually say F = MA but more properly it is F = change in momentum
"Impulse" = Total change in momentum = Force times time ( over a very short time usually)
It all depends on the stopping time and distance traveled while stopping, It is impossible to come to a stop in zero time, that would require infinite force
if the force during stopping is very high the material is damaged instead of just being bent for an instant. that is why a bullet does so much damage to flesh
or why air bags protect in accidents
the height and gravity and mass give energy, the laws of acceleration give velocity and momentum
the details of the stopping process allow estimates of force
an easy but not necessarily correct assumption is uniform acceleration and average speed ( initial + final)/2 for stopping time. V initial / t = a
or change in P = impulse = f x t